TIFT #11 Universal and Explanatory May 11, 2021

 

What clinicians need from research

The psychotherapy research community has produced many good things, but complaints are common about a mismatch between what research produces and what clinical psychotherapy needs. In my view, the problems revolve around two words: Universal and ...

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TIFT #10 The Secret Power of Fairytales May 04, 2021

 

Why is age five so special? And what is it about fairytales that makes them so compelling at that age? Few therapists are aware (and if you are, I’d love to hear about it) of an important event in cognitive development that takes place at about age five. I have alluded to it before,...

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TIFT #9 What You Don't Know About Shame tift Apr 27, 2021

Here’s the secret:

Treating inappropriate shame is one of the hardest jobs in psychotherapy. Knowing this and understanding why will help you know what to do and how to manage expectations. The surprising thing is that, as far as I can tell (and I’d love to know otherwise) no one has...

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TIFT #8 Nondirective vs. Directive? Apr 20, 2021

What does that sound like? Perhaps, “I’m feeling a tug to somehow get this therapy moving, but I can’t think of anything successful I could do right now. I wonder if in some way you have been waiting for me?” And indeed, the inner child may have been hoping to avoid...

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TIFT #7 How Much Support Apr 13, 2021

 

I am not comfortable with the concept of “supportive therapy” and here’s why:

“Insight psychotherapyis an expensive, prestigious treatment conducted by a relatively few highly trained professionals. Supportive psychotherapy, on the other hand, is conducted, in a...

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TIFT #6 Building Secure Attachment tift Apr 06, 2021

A consumer wrote this. I’ll call her Joan:

"How can adults who have never had safe secure attachment, meet these needs and become healthy well adjusted adults? If we are not able to see a good therapist because of being too debilitated by complex trauma to be able to work and therefore have...

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TIFT #5 Psychotherapy Training in the 21st Century tift Mar 30, 2021

The Problem

For the past 11 years I have been blogging about serious psychotherapy, especially about “attachment to your therapist.” Far too often I have been saddened to hear about patients abandoned by their therapists or harshly discharged by clinic administrators when they dared...

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TIFT #4 A Deeper Look at Low Self-Esteem Mar 23, 2021

 

One of the most common problems patients struggle with is low self-esteem and negative self-talk. In this TIFT, I want to bring psychodynamics together with CBT and more togo deeper into the subject.

Why People develop Low Self-Esteem

Watson's declaration that why was necessarily...

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TIFT #3 The "Antidote" in Psychotherapy tift Mar 16, 2021

 

You probably haven’t heard the term antidote used in this context, but I’m proposing it because it is really helpful in bringing together elements from many therapies. It describes one of just three core elements that need to be present for psychotherapeutic change,...

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TIFT #2 Inner Children of All Ages Mar 09, 2021

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In the last TIFT I talked about how inner children signal their unmet needs. This article is to show how understanding the developmental context helps the therapist navigate. At every level, inner children are likely to expect the therapist to be unwilling, like the parent, so they...

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TIFT #1 The Stuck Inner Child tift Mar 02, 2021

 

This is the first of a series of Tuesday emails offering useful tidbits for clinical psychotherapy. Normally this will be on Tuesday, but this is the first time. Oh well...

This post is about making sense of some very difficult problems in psychotherapy through a developmental point of...

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